What I hate about being a man is being a man. I don't like hanging out with them, I don't like my voice or face or body, I don't like being perceived as masculine or even male. I don't want to be a feminine man. I want to be a woman. It's not some single, identifiable trait of masculinity, it's moreso that being perceived as a man makes me miserable.


I understand your position, but I fundamentally disagree with the idea that you just ‘are what you are’. ‘Man’ and ‘woman’ are ideas, moreso tied to gender expression than sex. I am what I say I am, not what my genitals say I am.

This is not to invalidate your personal conclusion though. Some people don't need to transition, and that seems to be the case for you. It's good that you've discovered that, and I hope it goes well for you. But the only thing that has offered *me* that peace you mentioned has been transitioning, and being around people who validate me for that.

Gender is very personal, and the right choice is dif for everyone. For me, it's this.