The “Default Human” Problem: You’re right that society often treats “male” as the default. For many, transitioning isn't about moving from "nothing" to "default," but about aligning their external life with an internal reality that persists regardless of stereotypes.

Beyond Stereotypes: While society relies on tropes, many women (trans and cis) define womanhood not by a costume or a behavior, but as a fundamental sense of self. To them, being a woman isn't about doing feminine things; it's about being oneself while the world finally recognizes you correctly.

The Biological vs. Social: For some, the discomfort (dysphoria) is physical/hormonal and exists even in a vacuum. For others, it is exactly as you described: a rejection of a “role” that feels like an ill-fitting suit.

The Bottom Line
The "why" is different for everyone. For some, it’s a medical necessity to feel “right” in their skin; for others, it’s a social journey to find a space where they aren’t forced to be “harsh” or “stoic” against theirnatur