After stumbling along in the darkness for a while, eventually I was given light, it came in a comment from a confidant.

They said, “he can’t help who he is,” and then I knew, “but I can.”

Suddenly, I knew what to do to be a better father to my son.

In that moment, I caught a glimpse of the problem our parents were trying to solve with the way they treated us, so I turned a few pages in the book of forgiveness for them.